JCO: Black Girl White Girl

Hi Erik,

Thank you for recommending this book to me. I enjoyed it very much and think that it is very well written and constructed. I was moved many times while reading it and felt how powerfully the story was handled.

As to the subject of grief, I agree that it does not deal with it directly even though it is a book of reminiscences about Minette's life which ended so abruptly. Everything happens as if it were now without the hindsight or colouring of the afterwards.

The only quibble I have about this novel is its ending. I was a little surprised that in the end the main character was in fact not Minette but Genna's father, Max. She says "For, unwittingly, as I composed my text about Minette Swift, I was composing a shadow-text that had little to do with her. I'd intended to compose an inquiry into Minette Swift's life/death exclusively, but like an eclipse of the sun the shadow-text began to intrude. I could not seem to prevent it! The shadow-text is an inquiry into Max Meade and a portrait of the daughter who betrayed him."

I felt that the shadow-text did in fact become a total eclipse of the main text and that was disappointing. In a sense I felt that the subject of her death, her disappearance from life, was only touched upon. Genna suffered a nervous break-down as a result of all that was happening in her life but when she had confided to the resident adviser in total distress she talked about her father not her dear friend. She protected Minette to the very end, not wanting the world to pry into her life, even when delirious with high fever - but she betrayed her father. Interesting.

It would be great to hear what other people thought about the book - if it is still fresh in your minds. I think the relationship between the two girls and the racial issues are very complex and fascinating.

Does anybody know how much is fact and how much is fiction in this book?

Regards to all,

Marie (Sweden)

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From: Eric Anderson

To: jco@usfca.edu

Sent: Thursday, May 17, 2007 1:09 AM

Subject: RE: JCO: grief

Hi Marie

 

I'm sorry I didn't get a chance to answer you earlier when you asked about the subject of grief in Black Girl/White Girl. (It's been a very busy week for me.) Firstly, it's a brilliant book regardless and deserves to be read. Geena, the protagonist, does grieve deeply for her roommate, but it's a very complicated relationship to understand. I'll try not to spoil the plot. But Geena basically comes to view her black roommate Minette as a sister. In forming this kind of imaginary relationship/kinship with Minette she idealizes a lot about her, overlooking severe problems she has and the fact that Minette doesn't wish to have such a close friendship with Geena. The book mainly explores how this relationship develops and how both girls in the book have some fundamental misunderstandings about each other based on their racial identities, despite trying not to let the racial divide impede the friendship. Geena's desire to have such a close friendship/sisterhood with Minette seems to really come from the shortcomings she has in her own disparate messy family situation. The novel doesn't really deal with "the aftermath" as it were, a person coming to terms with someone's death so much as chart the course of a friendship between these girls. I hope that answers your question about the relevance of grief in Black Girl/White Girl. If you choose to read it, I'd love to hear what your reaction to it was and how you felt the subject of grief was dealt with in the book. In case you hadn't noticed, the paperback is coming out later this month. You also may be interested in Oates' new novel The Gravedigger's Daughter which is also released around the same time. It's a masterful, powerful work which also deals with this theme in its own way and perhaps this can be discussed more amongst the group when it is released.

 

All the best,

Eric

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From: rejment@bredband.net
To: jco@usfca.edu
Subject: JCO: grief
Date: Wed, 16 May 2007 19:19:42 +0200

Hello Everybody,

I am writing on the subject of grief and JCO again. I have read a little about Black Girl/White Girl, including some excerpts, but I have not yet read the book itself. Clearly Genna grieves for her roommate and wonders about the justice of death, and the strangeness of its choices.  I wonder, however, if those who have read the book would care to comment about how important this theme is in this particular work and how it is handled.

I think that JCO is such a powerful and sensitive writer that whatever subject she decides to write about - it becomes deep and multidimensional but it still may be just a footnote in the book.

Anybody?

Thanks,

Marie

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From: Eric Anderson

To: jco@usfca.edu

Sent: Sunday, May 13, 2007 3:16 PM

Subject: RE: JCO: Missing Mom

Hello Marie
 
I agree that Missing Mom is a very moving novel for the reasons you described.
 
Another book I read recently which deals so powerfully with the subject of grief is Joan Didion's memoir The Year of Magical Thinking. It demonstrates how emotional response can't be regulated by rational thinking, how the physical presence of those we've lost can take up habitation in our minds and the way we live our daily lives. It's a beautiful form of tribute despite how painful a process it is. You may be interested in reading Oates' novel American Appetites if you haven't already which partly deals with grief and loss concerning a relationship between a husband and wife which was much more tumultuous than that which Nikki had with her mother. However, the daughter's way of mourning is similar in some ways to that of Missing Mom.
 
Eric

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From: rejment@bredband.net
To: jco@usfca.edu
Subject: JCO: Missing Mom
Date: Sun, 13 May 2007 10:59:40 +0200

I've just finished reading "Missing Mom". I was truly moved by it maybe because I have recently experienced the death of my sister, with whom we were very close, and I could relate to Nikki's feelings so well. Nikki tried to impersonate her mother and I tried to impersonate my sister – like Nikki I have tried to become a new me.

The subject of death of the loved ones and our coping mechanisms to survive without them is quite painful to those who have been through it but maybe quite abstract to those who have not.

Has anybody read a good novel that handles the topic as sensitively as JCO?

Cheers,

Marie

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